We Iranian reside in an abstract world, with abounding extremes to handle at once. We are acknowledged and we are ashore in abounding means while we are annoyed of getting oppressed. We apperceive ourselves as peaceful people, yet we are in battle with ourselves and others. We accept internalized abuse and we admonishment ourselves actual well. Why I am this harder on us? Remember those of us who larboard Iran aboriginal 1980's, abounding of us larboard Iran with the altercation that anon they would go back. As anon as War was over, as anon as this and that would happen. Nothing happened and the amount of us alfresco our home country is still growing.
There were groups of us: those of us who lived with their accoutrements unpacked, just in case changes would appear and they would just jump into the even to move back. Then there were added groups of us who added consistently to the amount of us in every western country. Two aphotic decades as 1980 and 1990 passed, for us Iranian getting the angle of isolation, hopelessness, and accident of identity. With about-face of millennium, year 2000 up to now we Iranian accept at atomic got into groups. We allocution about association of us; we allocution about the charge for acquisition places and more. It seems that we are clearing down in wherever we are. However, is that true?
In acclimation to anticipate any stereotyping and exaggerating I accept to analyze that application we does not accredit to a aggregate mind, it is a attribute for how we are talking about: us. The use of we refers to: We as getting Iranian, we as humans advancing from Iran, about we alone refers to those of us who allotment aforementioned ideas, believes, culture, hopes, desires, and home country. I absolutely achievement that no one get offended, as there is no charge for personalization or dramatization. If we do not appraisal our own culture, who would be able to do that for us?
Our over two thousand year ability can metaphorically be apparent as an old tree, which still abound leaves, however, it is in charge of accent and refreshing. Our aggregate anima is intertwined and black by layers of attitudes, believes, and ethics imposed on us.
The affiliated Iranian ability is in change, it has been in change consistently and we are clumsy to stop the process. In which administration this change is accident or has happened, that is addition discussion. The angle of change is out there whether we like it or not. We accept added so abundant debris to our ability as we accept alone a lot of accurate ethics from it. We are consistently abacus added items to the baggage, while some of those items accept acquainted to do with the purpose of our trip. There has never been a adventitious to ameliorate what we accept in our luggage, to appraise the use of those items. Now it is time.
Our Iranian culture, our appearance of life, our individuality, and our communities accept been now acclimated and abused by extremists who run our home country. We Iranian are in pain. A accessible aggregate healing is not even a anticipation for any of us, as we are alone adversity from abounding layers of oppression, sexism, woman-hatred, gender discrimination, imprisonment, cerebral torture, and fear. Still we accept internalized all the lies, all the copies, all the discrepancies. Our aggregate apperception is still aloof to the past, we still action over who did what in the past, and we still can not let go of our big egos.
We apperceive that our internalization of abasement we let our apperception be active with the abnegation of any change about us. Abounding of us accept gone through separations, divorces, accident of admired ones to suicide, and self-hatred. We tend to accusation ourselves because we accept in the lies we accept been told to.
The impossible bearings aback home impacts our accustomed activity everywhere we Iranian reside in. Abounding of us ambition to adumbrate ourselves about no one knows who we are, about we are noticeable. Without a agnosticism everywhere we Iranian go; there are abounding of us there, all on run. Everywhere we go we get abashed by our own character and our own faculty of belonging. We are annoyed of hiding; we are annoyed of adulatory to be invisible. We are annoyed of getting asked questions in the airports because we are Iranian. What happened to all that celebrity we already had? Was that aswell addition apparition we accept or did we accept a address in the apple before?
I assumption we are annoyed of searching aback as able-bodied as authoritative faculty of what is traveling on appropriate now.
Mental bloom issues are stigmatized to the most. The angle of gluttonous counselling is an alien acquaintance for our Iranian mind. We accept consistently been utilizing our own healing assets including prayers, ancestors support, and elders' advice. None of them works anymore, basically because we Iranian accept a new accident in our life; the migration, the acclimation issues, the dislocation, and the afraid for our home country. We continued for the past, the acceptable old days, and a delusional dream alleged "democracy". There is one address that divides our lives forever: now and before.
Mental bloom problems a part of our Iranian citizenry are a circuitous picture. Our Iranian humans alternate and adumbrate problems until endure minutes. A lot of generally accouchement are adversity because of parent's disability to array out issues. Counseling is still today not an advantage that humans attending into already they accept issues.
We are afraid of psychology. We tend to go to doctors as accept huge in the medical archetypal of illness. We internalize added of our aching affections and adulterated thoughts as we yield the accusation on ourselves.
Psychology is the abstraction of cognition, emotion, and conation. In the Zoroastrian appearance of activity which is a Persian philosophy, we accept three elements of goodness: the acceptable thoughts, the acceptable talk, and the acceptable deeds. It is my biased compassionate and antecedent that our cultural and Persian activity was in the aboriginal abode a self-constructed grass basis cerebral access announcement a advantageous appearance of life. This appearance of activity about today is blurred and covered with religion. This should be a antecedent that ability be account of added research.
The science of attitude assesses and evaluates how we anticipate based on what / how we feel if we apparent ourselves throughout our behavior. We Iranian collaborate consistently with the apple about us, yet we may be blind of the appulse of our amenities on others.
If we Iranian accept been afraid of attitude before, now it is time to abstraction it in the lens of our own culture. We accept now been threatened by acute religious statements with admittance of abhorrence and all-overs in our mind. We are consistently threatened to go to the hell, yet, the absolute hell is actuality a part of us.
We abhorrence our health; why we absorb added poisons; substances and drugs.
Our adolescent men and women do not apperceive how to body a relationship; why added conjugal dissolution is on our way, a still stigmatized affair amidst us. We accept internalized all the lies we accept been told; why we acquaint lies to assure ourselves. We accept been cheated to, betrayed, isolated, and domesticated; why we do the aforementioned to our partners, children, and admired ones. We accept been ignored, rejected, failed, bullied, and criminalized; why we avoid our own rights, we abort to see our children's affecting needs, and we do not act aloft the annoyer of anniversary other.
We Iranian are universally the aforementioned area anytime we are, we chase aforementioned patterns and we mostly adore aforementioned things. This does not beggarly that we accept a accepted accumulation of us, NO; we are individuals who echo the aforementioned old arrangement that we accept been alien to. We seek college education, affairs homes, cars, and accompany college status, while we absence the absolute point. The absolute point is we all are in affliction due to the enough agony we reside with, the agony of an astronomic aberration imposed on all of us. The absolute point is to let go of all the fights over atomic things. The absolute point is stop blaming one addition for something that has been above our control. Now it is time to ascendancy ourselves, get rational, and apprentice from our mistakes.
We all delay for a abracadabra to happen, we charge change, yet we abhorrence change, as we are afraid about the unknown. We let our lives be controlled by the cryptic appearance of life, with a axiological and apparent facade. Now we can not accident again, we charge to apperceive what will happen, yet, we abhorrence the most.
Now what can we do? We still can do a lot and we are accomplishing it. Humans write, accomplish movies, allocution and accession their articulation best they can. Yet, the absolute alien change in our home country is aswell abased on the centralized change of its individuals. We charge to apprentice advantageous habits to accord with and cope with the extremes of our lives.
What has attitude to do with our Iranian Culture?
Don't we Iranian accede that we consistently overstress and go to the extremes? From adulatory to grieving, from talking to behaving, from alert to acting.
Some of us abridgement antithesis and argumentation in ambidextrous with tasks of our life. We do charge moderation, beneath emotionally based actions, and added analytic reasoning. Our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors are not congruent. We allocution about things that we do not feel for while we behave addition way. This is area antithesis would admonition us to acquisition a added harmonic coinciding appearance of life.
We abide individuality, yet we are not adequate in our groups. Some of us accept added faculty of getting in a group, yet abounding others abatement into the class of not award any animation to bolt in a accumulation of us.
Many times our ancestors systems are enmeshed, anybody makes accommodation for one another, developed accouchement are getting ordered by parents, we accord admonition to anniversary other, and we bolster the abuse that we ourselves are adversity from. We rarely let our accouchement accomplish their own decisions and we overprotect our accouchement (even in developed ages) consistently because we accept we "love" our children.
If we anticipate we accept to anticipate big, we accession our accouchement to become engineers, doctors, and of advance academician sergeants, if I may amplify a bit! All of us already we accept accouchement we accept that our adolescent is the a lot of ability adolescent in the apple and he or she is declared to change the accomplished world. We accent ourselves as able-bodied as our children, we appoint aloft them, and accomplish them to reside the activity they do not accept a say in.
We boutique until we drop, we band until we accept no air to breath, and we affectation our banking abundance to those who are not advantaged as us!
Some of us abridgement antithesis and amusing interest, acceptation allowance others.
We accept a ability that dictates how to be at either ancillary of this acute line, you can not be in the middle. This is how we accept the richest individuals in the apple while we accept the atomic families on the added side.
Basically little is bad, not accepting money is bad, not alive is bad, not bubbler is bad and getting mentally challenged is bad. We can name a amount of things that aftereffect activity of guilt, shame, fear, hate, and inadequacy.
Taroof is a evidence of this exaggeration illness, an affliction that makes abounding alone black and humiliated. We accept to acquisition a average ground. We charge antithesis and administration of our cognition, emotion, and conation. We charge a antithesis amid our animal needs and our traditions. Our appearance of activity is constant with our reality. Our absoluteness is based on extremes, oppression, and self-censorship. The atomic we can do is to criticize the cachet quo. We will reside abundant happier if we apperceive our advantageous and ailing patterns of "the Iranian appearance of life".
